Being Straight Edge is something I very rarely admit to. Not because I’m ashamed or in some kind of denial – but because people don’t really get what it means. It’s easier just tell people that I don’t drink, as alcohol consumption seems to be a bit of a big deal.
My name’s Hayley and I live in a pretty rural area in Lincolnshire, England. I almost don’t have any friends which is mostly a blessing as explaining to people why I find their lifestyle boring is a real chore in itself. I recently started a new job at a tool store, and my colleagues found out within the first week that I don’t smoke or drink or do drugs or consume animal products and honestly they acted like I was from another planet.
Non-edge activities seem to be incredibly important to non-edge people and it’s really difficult to make friends who don’t judge negatively if I refrain from doing the things that they’re so passionate about. I guess I feel quite isolated at times as I don’t get to take part in social activities or dates because I’m a ‘boring straight edge vegan’. I think that there is a real unwillingness to scratch beneath the surface and I honestly think that a lot of that is purely down to geography.
My perception is that sxe/xvx people from cities get a much easier ride. It’s a more common and accepted way of life, particularly if they’re involved with certain live music scenes as the subculture lifestyle seems to encompass personal values, the arts and lifestyle choices.
So where does this leave me? I guess I’m okay with being a bit of an outsider. I live in a very old cottage with 11 cats, 3 dogs, as well as rabbits, guinea pigs & rats. My lifestyle and beliefs don’t fit in with other people and that’s ok. I figured out a long time ago that trying to be likeable or palatable is hard fucking work. I’m incredibly grateful for groups like xsisterhoodx that actually give a voice and validity to being an edge girl in 2020